Some postpone marriage until education is complete and a job obtained. While widely accepted in the world, this reasoning does not demonstrate faith, comply with counsel of modern prophets and is not compatible with sound doctrine.I keep thinking: why would anyone give that kind of advice?
And I finally have a theory. It's another strategy designed to keep people from leaving the church. The missionary age was lowered to keep youth from having the time to experience life away from home and questioning what they've been taught. This is the same kind of thing, only it's targeted at a slightly older age group.
Let's say a returned missionary gets married in his first or second year after coming home. He'll still have two or three years of school left before he even gets his bachelor's degree and longer before he finds gainful employment. But because he's followed the counsel of Quentin L. Myopic, he'll spend at least the next few years in exhaustion, attempting to finish his education, keep a job to pay for his education, fulfill his church callings and still trying to find the time to be a husband and father. His wife will be in a similar boat, trying to maintain the household and take care of the children while trying to stretch her husband's meager income (minus ten percent) and receiving little assistance from her burnt-out spouse (and don't forget her church callings).
The result? I think Cook is hoping that, in the midst of all the stress this couple has flung themselves into headlong, the church will become their most important source of emotional support. They'll call it their "harbor in the storm" in testimony meetings. Surrounded by others going through the same crises and some who have gone through them before, the couple will look forward to Sundays as a time to finally feel peace...even though it was the church they attend that created the need for such respite. The church is trying to turn people into junkies so that the only thing that gets them through the day is a good strong hit of Mormonism.
I can't think of a single practical reason for why Cook issue this admonishment. To demonstrate faith? I think everyone's experience can speak for itself that not all faithful Mormons who marry before being financially stable wind up with good incomes and happy families. If there is no guaranteed reward for the faith, why does God expect his children to do it? At least when God told Abraham to sacrifice his son, he was rewarded by not actually having to go through with it. But here, people can suffer for decades with debt and stress and generally spreading themselves too thin because they demonstrated their faith and received nothing for it.
It's another control tactic. It's a doctrinal lobster trap. It's irresponsible and reprehensible.
And it certainly doesn't seem right to me.